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The Art of Disagreeing

How to Keep Calm and Stay Friends in Hard Conversations

  • Bestseller
  • Paperback
  • Publisher: The Good Book Company
  • 12.9 x 19.8 x 12.7 cm

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For those seeking to navigate disagreements with grace.

Gavin Ortlund teaches how to disagree respectfully and productively.

Encourages healthier, more loving interactions in disagreements.

In this practical guide, Gavin Ortlund offers biblical wisdom on how to engage in disagreements with love, fostering peace and understanding in a polarized world.
Anna Hockley

Anna Hockley

Eden Christian Books Specialist

In this positive and practical book, Gavin Ortlund looks to the Scriptures to discover a way in which to disagree with others that leads to greater understanding, peace and love—and that shows a watching world something of Jesus.This is a much-needed book in a society that is losing the ability to disagree well. Whether over politics, religion or culture, or the more everyday issues of normal life, points of view tend to be held with a polarising intensity. Often we enter disagreements feeling that we have to win or we avoid them altogether.

Looking to Jesus' example of courage and kindness, readers will be given a framework for engaging in intense disagreements with a love that furthers relationships instead of hindering them.

So, whether you tend to fight or flee, learn how to keep calm and stay friends—even when you don't agree.

The Art of Disagreeing and Theological Retrieval for Evangelicals
Theological Retrieval for EvangelicalsThe Art of Disagreeing
  • Author

    Gavin Ortlund

  • Book Format

    Paperback / softback

  • Publisher

    The Good Book Company

  • Published

    February 2025

  • Weight

    115g

  • Dimensions

    12.9 x 19.8 x 12.7 cm

  • ISBN

    9781802541403

  • ISBN-10

    1802541403

  • Eden Code

    6823379

Introduction: Why Disagreement Is Difficult

  1. Kindness
  2. Courage
  3. Listening
  4. Persuasion
  5. Love

Culture wars, political polarization, and the toxic climate of social media are making it harder than ever for Christians to have conflictual conversations that build up relationships rather than tearing them down. Gavin Ortlund rightly believes that it is possible for us to disagree without being disagreeable. In The Art of Disagreement—a book blessedly short enough to read before your next hard conversation—Ortlund offers both spiritual encouragement and practical guidance for listening well, speaking wisely, and honoring God whenever we disagree. - Philip G. Ryken, President, Wheaton College

This is a winsome, courageous, warm-hearted, and desperately needed book. Don’t let its brevity fool you into thinking it can’t possibly tackle this issue in a searching way. Rather, read it slowly, reflect, repent and commit to relating in Christ-like ways in his strength, and then pass it on to someone else, with the prayer that God may change the way in which we relate to one another for the sake of the gospel of the Lord Jesus! - Gary Millar, Principal of Queensland Theological College, Australia; author of Saving Eutychus

With scandals rocking the Christian world and disagreements between Christians played out on social media for all to see, this book is very timely. With pastoral wisdom and practical application, Gavin Ortlund asserts that while disagreement in itself is not a problem, the way we conduct ourselves when we disagree can be hugely damaging. This book encourages us to be better listeners (one of the indelible marks of wisdom) and challenges us not to try and win the argument but rather to build trust with those with whom we may (continue to) disagree. - Carrie Sandom, Director of Women's Ministry, The Proclamation Trust

Gavin is one of the best models of thoughtful, gracious, and healthy disagreement that I know. In this timely book, he shows us how we can learn from, listen to, persuade, and love one another, with a warmth and wisdom that we can all learn from. - Andrew Wilson, Teaching Pastor, King's Church London; Author, God of All Things

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