In a culture war between gays and Christians, Justin Lee was caught in the middle.

Nicknamed "God Boy" by his peers, Lee knew that he was called to a life in evangelical Christian ministry. But questions about his own sexuality forced him to rethink his "love the sinner, hate the sin" approach, sending him on a journey to better understand the Bible, the science, and the history of the church's gay debate--eventually leading him to become one of the most respected voices on the subject on both sides of the divide. Filled with personal stories and careful research, Torn provides insightful, practical guidance for all committed Christians who wonder how to relate to gay friends or family members--or who struggle with their own sexuality. Torn has been a trusted resource for over a decade, and this updated edition features new material to address the impact and aftermath of the "ex-gay" movement, gender identity and the broader LGBTQ+ movement, an updated and expanded look at where the overall affirming Christian movement is going, and new practical recommendations for combating the increased polarization that threatens to tear us apart. Convinced that God's grace is the key to loving one another without compromise, Lee charts a path for people on both sides of the debate to help mend Christianity's shattered reputation and bring peace to our families and churches.