A “no holds barred” and straightforward book on the pains of divorce. After the initial struggle with the book’s second sentence: “You, my reader, may not be divorced but if you are not careful, it may become a possibility”, there were some helpful insights – particularly on the matter of the church’s response to divorcees. It is pastors and church pastoral staff that would find the most benefit from this book, for although one senses Holdt’s passion for relationships and love for those going through divorce, the arguments are best understood by Christians with a degree of maturity, therefore I wouldn’t give it to anyone who happens to be facing divorce – whether they were in the church or not.