Human nature is structured in a way that it searches. It searches for what it doesn't own. That is why we run after people who don't want us and things we don't need. The secret is to stop and look at the people who need you and the things you possess.

So give up running. Give up so you can become present. Giving up things and people who don't belong to you includes, among others, discovering your own person.
What connects you to these things is simply the attachment that ensures your fake need for affection. Why? Because you need people and things, not at all attachments.

So give up this wandering so you can become free.
And don't forget one thing; you are approached according to the degree of comfort you offer. So don't expect that people around you applaud your suffering.